Posted: 08:10 GMT, Jan. February 2021 | Updated: 09:05 GMT, Jan. February 2021

Couples had to spend every day together during the Covid-19 lockdown – and it’s not surprising that many are feeling the strain

Thankfully, relationship experts have shared their top tips for reviving that romantic spark while the two of you are stuck at home

From sleeping in separate beds on specific nights to planning sex to watching a scary movie together and even wrestling to get adrenaline and instant arousal, it’s possible to miss each other even if you are are together around the clock

Here relationship counselors and psychotherapists give advice for lockdown couples who quickly get tired of each other

Relationship trainer Helen Snape and psychotherapist Matt Davies shared their tips to help couples re-ignite the spark and “miss” each other during lockdown (stock image)

Most couples are used to spending time with each other, be it during the day at work while exercising or spending time apart with friends

Relationship trainer Helen Snape insists that creating space between you and your partner to “miss” one another is just as important as any other time

She suggested sleeping in a separate bed a couple of nights a week and taking your time instead of just “bubbling” with your partner

Helen explained, “If we can work in separate rooms that way we are just creating some space. Or even if someone calls you on the phone, take it somewhere else

‘Why not sleep in a separate bed a couple of nights a week just so you can feel like you are getting back together?

‘While it might be nice to take your partner for a walk and exercise together, maybe you can do these things yourself, and take the time to do things alone or with other people – whether reading, meditating, doing yoga whatever it is

‘It just means that you remember where you end and they start. It is so important for us to gain our own individuality and autonomy so that we don’t bubble along with the other person’

Among the top tips, Helen advised couples to watch activities like watching a scary movie, building adrenaline, and creating arousal and excitement (stock image)

Helen advised couples to rekindle the spark in their relationship by trying to recreate the feelings and experiences from the beginning

She stated that a great way to do this is to build up adrenaline to create arousal and excitement

Helen said, “When you’re in the excitement of a new relationship, it’s all about that excitement and that adrenaline, so if we can get that back that excitement can be carried over to the relationship ‘

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Matt suggested that couples try to wrestle with each other in order to revive their passion and reduce pent-up anger or frustration during lockdown

He also suggested trying other fun and impromptu activities including dancing and singing to laugh as a couple

And the less active couples can also enjoy Matt’s advice to play traditional board games like backgammon to bring some playfulness back into your relationship

He explained: ‘Couples who can play together will rekindle their spark. Play can be the traditional board game like backgammon, morris for nine men or chess, as in the exciting Queen’s Gambit

‘Or it can spontaneously dance to music in the kitchen Dance is also stimulating and great fun Every kind of movement is dance, I mean steps that have not been learned

One unusual way she suggested couples watch a scary movie together

‘Working out together at home or going jogging together – or even watching a scary movie, it all just builds up the adrenaline and you remember, “Oh, I actually like this person,” she explained

But psychotherapist Matt Davies (wwwMattdaviesorg) argues this is a common misconception and insists that planning a night of passion with your partner makes the mind “wild with anticipation”

‘The brain is the most erotic organ, so looking forward to something is crucial to keep the mind focused, “he explained

‘We call it “simmering” when you are expecting a passionate night with your partner that is planned and in the diary

‘Your imagination is the key to “simmering” as you build excitement by imagining and going through things you look forward to

‘Contrary to popular belief, planning doesn’t lead to boredom. It means the body can relax and the mind can go wild with “smoldering” anticipation and excitement’

The longer couples are together, the more likely they become comfortable in their romance and forget to invest time in their relationship

But Helen recommends that couples recreate the feelings and experiences of their first meeting with their partner to rekindle that excitement

The relationship trainer asked people to leave love letters in their partner’s underwear drawer or to buy them a small gift as a surprise

She said, “It is normal for this initial phase of infatuation, fantasies and desires in any relationship to subside a little as you grow into a more mature form of love and intimacy.”

‘I think it’s normal and it’s tightened in the lockdown when we spend so much more time together but there are definitely things we can do to rekindle that spark’

Helen continued, “Go back to your first meeting and remember what the relationship was like

‘Things like surprising each other that mimic the emotional state you get when you’re in a new relationship

‘Even in lockdown we can give our partner a small gift just because! We can write them a love letter and hide it in their underwear drawer so they can find it, or we could ask to have a song played for them on the radio It’s the little things’

Relationship counselor Matt insists on planning a night of passion with your partner and then thinking about it to drive the mind “wild with anticipation” (stock image)

Relationship counselor Emma Davey, founder of MyTraumaTherapycom, urged couples to take the time to be romantic

She recommended meeting dates to differentiate yourself from other days in lockdown, and suggested a romantic meal or a luxurious bath

She continued, “Be spontaneous, just because we’re locked in doesn’t mean we can’t still be romantic Take a date night with a good movie and something special

‘Make it a date night to remember by making it exciting and different from other closed days. Maybe finish it off with a bath with a few candles

‘As much as we all want to go out and dine out, it’s just not possible, but that doesn’t mean the romance is canceled we just have to think differently ‘

The familiar phrase “opposites attract” couldn’t be truer during the lockdown, as Matt advised couples to challenge each other and take risks in conversations

He explained that while couples are often concerned about their differences, they can actually lead to experiments in the bedroom and open up new possibilities

The marriage counselor continued, “Often times, couples worry when they think they are too different from one another. This fear often means they are trying to fuse it all together and come to an agreement

‘But eroticism relies on you and your partner being different enough to make a change between you, which can mean taking risks in conversations, from political to personal

‘When you rely on your partner’s consent, it can be scary to express your views knowing they are different from your partner’s. The downside of this is the ability to be curious about your partner’s different views be without getting angry or defending

‘When the two of you can feel safe and valued for your differences, you can explore more intimate areas like your deepest feelings, sexual thoughts, and fantasies, which can lead to bedroom experimentation and new ways to arouse and enjoy each other ‘

People have made themselves comfortable and worn the same old loungewear every day while working from home and not seeing anyone outside of their home.But Matt urged the couples to practice their personal hygiene and cleanliness during lockdown remember to keep the romance alive

He said, ‘In these times of lockdown, keeping up with cleanliness and personal hygiene is critically important, it’s so easy to put on the same old sweatpants every day when you are on zoom all day and only from the waist are visible at

On the subject of getting dressed, Matt also advised people to spice up their sex lives with imagination and role-play, and try other new and exciting things

He continued, “See if you can define your sexual style and practice taking a different approach. Do you get aroused by focusing your visual and aesthetic senses on your partner while making love?

‘If so, practice drawing your attention inward and focusing on your inner feelings and sensations, you can turn off the lights and have sex in the dark when the lights are normally on, or practice using imagination and role play ‘

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